Why I Created “Sunday Scaries to Sacred”
- Roxy Steenkamp

- Feb 24
- 2 min read
On paper, I was high-performing.
Leadership role.Managing large teams.Responsible for budgets, buildings, people, pressure.
I was capable, Driven and Reliable.
But every Sunday evening, my nervous system told a different story.
Tight chest.
Restless mind.
Replaying conversations that hadn’t even happened yet.
Bracing for Monday before it arrives.
And that’s when I realised something uncomfortable:
High-performing doesn’t mean low-anxiety.
In fact, the two often sit side by side.
For years, I thought the Sunday Scaries meant I wasn’t resilient enough. That maybe I just needed to “toughen up” or be more productive.
But the truth was deeper than that.
It wasn’t about workload.
It was about energy.
Boundaries.
Self-abandonment.
Unprocessed emotion.
And I say this as someone who loves leadership. Who thrives on responsibility. Who genuinely cares about the people I lead.
But caring deeply can also mean carrying deeply.
At some point, I realised I didn’t need another productivity hack.
I needed a pause.
And this is where my slightly unconventional side comes in.
Alongside corporate leadership, I’ve always been drawn to spirituality. Meditation. Reflection. Energy. The idea that how we feel walking into a room matters just as much as what’s on the agenda.
For a while, I kept that part of me quiet at work.
Spirituality didn’t feel “boardroom appropriate.”
But the more I explored nervous system regulation, self-awareness, and intentional rituals, the more I saw the overlap.
The leaders who thrive long-term aren’t the ones who hustle endlessly.
They’re the ones who reset.
So I created a 30-minute Sunday ritual for myself.
Not to escape my career.
Not to manifest a new life overnight.
But to regulate my nervous system. To process the week. To set boundaries with intention.To choose how I walk into Monday.
That ritual became “Sunday Scaries to Sacred.”
It’s not about pretending anxiety doesn’t exist.
It’s about acknowledging it and then working with it.
Because anxiety isn’t weakness. It’s information, and when high-achievers don’t create space to process that information, it leaks into burnout, resentment, and quiet exhaustion.
I built Sunday Scaries to Sacred because I refused to believe that dread was the cost of ambition.
I believe we can be powerful and peaceful. Strategic and self-aware.Driven and grounded.
Leadership without self-connection isn’t sustainable.
And I’m no longer hiding the fact that spirituality has made me a better leader.
If you’ve ever looked successful but felt unsettled inside.....you’re not alone.
You might not need a new job.
You might just need a reset.
So here’s the real question: are we finally ready to talk about anxiety in high performance or are we still pretending it’s just part of the job?





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